When news hit the web that Taylor Swift was dating Matty Healy just weeks after it was reported that she had split from Joe Alwyn – many were left wondering if her new romance was the real deal or if it was a rebound and wasn’t going to last very long.
Now, a series of relationship experts have weighed-in on the popstar’s latest love connection, and the dating coaches believe that the Blank Space songstress, 33, and the 1975 front man, 34, have something that is much more than just a fling.
Jaime Bronstein, a licensed relationship therapist and author from Los Angeles, California, told DailyMail.com exclusively that she thinks Taylor and Matty have ‘genuine feelings for each other’ – since they were connected years prior and didn’t just come into each other’s lives following her and Joe’s breakup.
‘I think that Taylor and Matty’s relationship has the potential to be the real deal, especially because they have a brief past together,’ she explained.
When news hit the web that Taylor Swift was dating Matty Healy – many were left wondering if her new romance was the real deal or if it was a rebound and wasn’t going to last very long
Her new relationship with Matty came to light just weeks after it was reported that she had split from Joe Alwyn (seen together in 2019)
‘Starting a new relationship shortly after one ends is quite common, especially if it’s with someone you have dated in the past.
Now, a series of relationship experts (one seen above) have weighed-in on the popstar’s latest love connection, and the dating coaches believe that the new couple are more than just a fling
‘There is speculation that Taylor and Matty dated in the past, which sets them up for a better chance for a successful relationship – regardless of the proximity of the timing to Taylor’s last relationship.
‘They are already familiar with one another, but only time will tell if it will last.’
Taylor and Matty first crossed paths back in November 2014, when Taylor was spotted attending a 1975 concert with her pals Selena Gomez and Ellie Goulding.
She was seen at another one of his concerts in December of that year, and soon after, rumors erupted that they were more than friends.
The rocker quickly shut them down, however, stating during a radio interview weeks later, ‘It’s fake. It’s all bloody fake. It’s a farce.’
‘We met each other, we exchanged numbers in the same way that a lot of people in this kind of world do, and we spoke occasionally,’ he added.
‘She’s the biggest pop star in the world and I’m in Australia. There’s no relationship or anything happening. It’s just funny how people really, really buy into that.’
Jaime Bronstein (pictured), a licensed relationship therapist and author from LA, told DailyMail.com that she thinks Taylor and Matty have ‘genuine feelings for each other’
She pointed out that Taylor, 33, and Matty, 34, were connected years prior and didn’t just come into each other’s lives following her and Joe’s breakup
Even so, the two stars continued to spark speculation when they were seen spending time together at a Universal Music party in February 2015.
But again, he insisted nothing was going on between them while speaking to Q Magazine in March 2016.
The Dating Expert founder Brock Olsen (pictured) agreed with Jaime’s sentiment, explaining, ‘I think for it to be a a true rebound relationship, you need to not have a lot of past with the person’
‘I don’t do anything else [besides music], right, so it doesn’t leave a lot of room for me going out, or shagging someone,’ he said. ‘So the one time I did have a flirtation with a girl it ends up going everywhere.’
The Dating Expert founder and podcast host Brock Olsen, based in Chattanooga, Tennessee, agreed with Jaime’s sentiment, explaining, ‘I think for it to be a a true rebound relationship, you need to not have a lot of past with the person.
‘So this doesn’t quite qualify in this case because Taylor and Matt have known each other for nearly a decade.
‘Sometimes timing is the most important missing ingredient to a potential romance and perhaps this is the right time for them to give it a go.’
Brock also pointed out that while it may have seemed like Taylor moved on from Joe very quickly on the outside, none of us know what really went down behind the scenes.
News emerged in early April that Joe and Taylor had split after six years together.
At the time, sources told DailyMail.com that the British actor, 32, struggled to get his career off the ground following the COVID-19 pandemic, while Taylor’s continued to soar – which ultimately drove a wedge between the pair.
Brock also pointed out that while it may have seemed like Taylor moved on from Joe very quickly on the outside, none of us know what really went down behind the scenes
News emerged in early April that Joe and Taylor had split after six years together. They are seen together in 2020
Less than a month later, The Sun reported that Taylor and Matty had fallen ‘madly in love.’
He was then seen in the audience at her concert days later, and then, the two stars seemingly confirmed their romance when they were caught holding hands during a dinner date in New York City on May 11.
Less than a month later, The Sun reported that Taylor and Matty had fallen ‘madly in love,’ and they were caught holding hands during a dinner date in New York City on May 11 (seen)
Brock theorized that Taylor may have been ‘checked out’ of her relationship to Joe for a while before it actually ended, which would have contributed to her ability to date someone new so quickly.
‘We sometimes are in dead relationships, where our needs are not being fed to us on a consistent basis,’ he continued.
‘What can we do in that situation is naturally begin to check out of that relationship – and we can even begin looking elsewhere for our needs to be fulfilled.
‘It would be very natural and highly possible that she checked out long before the official breakup occurred. When a woman says “it’s over,” she’s likely been mentally and emotionally gone for a while.
‘Her being able to move on so quickly is a sign that her six-year relationship was unfilled for a while and her relationship with Matt makes her feel safe, seen, heard, and valued.
‘It can bring great comfort to have someone who truly understands our past for us to bond more quickly and progress from our past relationship in a healthy positive way and into a new relationship.’
Samantha Burns, a licensed breakup coach and author of Breaking Up and Bouncing Back from Boston, Massachusetts, told DailyMail.com that people often ‘make the decision to be done with a relationship long before it actually ends.’
Samantha Burns (seen), a licensed breakup coach and author, told DailyMail.com that people often ‘make the decision to be done with a relationship long before it actually ends’
‘It’s possible there was a private uncoupling period where Taylor emotionally detached and prepared mentally for what life would be like without Joe,’ Samantha (seen) added
‘Though no one knows the intimate details of Taylor and Joe’s romance, it’s possible there was a private uncoupling period where she emotionally detached and prepared mentally for what life would be like without him,’ she added.
‘This means she may be farther along in her breakup grief than one might assume from the official public timeline of their split.’
According to Samantha, it’s important to ‘unpack your emotional baggage and reflect on why your previous relationship didn’t work out’ before you start a new one.
You also have to ‘take accountability for your share in the unraveling’ and ‘get clear on what you want and need moving forward.’
Jaime, who penned the book MAN*ifesting: A Step-By-Step Guide to Attracting the Love That’s Meant for You, agreed, adding that ‘unresolved issues’ will ‘show up in the new relationship’ and cause ‘plenty of conflicts’ if you don’t face them head on.
‘Sometimes, when people jump into a new relationship too fast, they haven’t had a chance to reflect upon what went wrong in their last relationship,’ she dished.
‘Get clear on what didn’t work in your past relationship so you can make sure to avoid repeating it in your next one.
‘Take the time to heal what needs to be healed, even if you have to do it while you start a new relationship.
‘Be honest with [your new partner] about your feelings and express any concerns. Feel free to be vulnerable with one another, as vulnerability breeds a strong connection and foundation for a relationship.’
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